THANK YOU FOR YOUR INTEREST IN THE REDEFINING PERFECT PARENTING ONLINE COMMUNITY.
Tina was naturally a very social person. Before she had kids, she worked as a marketing assistant and loved her job, including the fact that she had so many amazing co-workers. When she wasn’t working, Tina spent most of her time with her family and friends.
Tina was very excited to have kids and looked forward to having playdates with the other moms in her neighborhood. When her son turned 6 months old, she started having playdates and enjoyed the time she spent chatting with other parents.
But just before he turned 2, Tina’s son started to hit and kick other children at the playgroup. Tina was mortified. She tried to intervene but couldn’t find any way to motivate her son to behave differently.
So Tina stopped having playdates. She spent her days alone with her son because she was so embarrassed by his behavior — and by what others would think of her inability to fix the situation. Tina didn’t even want to talk to anyone about her son’s aggression because she was so ashamed.
Finally, after she had been going stir-crazy inside her house with her son for a few days in a row, she cautiously approached another mom who she believed would be non-judgmental. Full of anxiety, she told the mom about her son’s hitting and was surprised to hear her admit, “My 2 year old daughter is having trouble being social as well! And I’ve isolated myself too! Maybe we should have playdates together. I’m going to go crazy if I spend another day stuck in the house with my kids.”
Tina felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off her shoulders when she could finally talk about what she’d been going through and was not judged for it. To her relief, not only did the mother not blame her, but the discussion brought Tina and the other mother closer together. Finally, Tina felt like she could be herself again.
Why am I telling you this story?
Because I know that many of us let our “imperfections” isolate us and separate us. We’re afraid to be real because of our own shame or fear about how other people might respond.
In the Redefining Perfect Parenting membership site, there will be tools to create a community full of well-intentioned and imperfect parents who are willing to open up because they know they are in a safe space.
Parents will be encouraged to talk about what it is really like to be a parent. (Sometimes we ALL just want to get as far away as possible from our kids!).
Like Tina, many parents will find that their “vulnerabilities” to bring them closer to other parents instead of making them feel isolated and alone.
Some examples of community tools that will be available on the membership site are:
- Small groups based on common interests (check out a sneak peak of the “Groups” page at the bottom of this email)
- The ability to create groups that are public to all members or private to those members you select
- Discussions that include topics like “Confession of an Imperfect Parent,” “Parent Successes” and “You Have GOT To Try This!”
- The ability to post videos, pictures, and messages
- Private on-site messaging system
- Blogs that can be set up by any member
- The ability to “friend” people
- The ability to track friends’ activity and use @mentions.
Basically, the space will be similar to a combination of different social media outlets — but with none of the judgement.
And comparing your life to other people’s lives and feeling inadequate (ahem, Pinterest, Instagram, Facebook) will be outlawed!