Episode 55

We may believe that it’s our job to foster responsible, respectful behavior in our children.

But what if we try to talk to them about their behavior and they refuse to acknowledge that they’ve done anything wrong?

What if, when we bring up things they’ve done (or haven’t done), all they do is defend themselves…or blame others?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • What’s really causing children (and adults’!) defensiveness and blaming 
  • Why our usual strategies for handling this behavior only make things worse
  • A simple strategy to address this issue effectively

Referenced in this episode:

Your Parenting Long Game, Episode 1: Band-Aid Parenting vs. Long Game Parenting
Your Parenting Long Game, Episode 2: Your Parenting Long Game: The Framework
Your Parenting Long Game, Episode 18: Stop Assuming that Kids Just “Don’t Feel Like” Doing What They’re Supposed to Do
Your Parenting Long Game, Episode 27: Teaching Kids to Cope With Feelings in a Healthy Way 

When Children Become Defensive or Blame Others

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  1. Just wow. One of my favorite episodes Rachel! For me, this is the most important thing about parenting including what you mentioned of having our own backs!! Wow. Loved it. Thank you SO much!!

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