Episode 377

When kids say or do things that feel rude or disrespectful in the middle of a big reaction, it can leave you feeling stuck: Part of you knows they’re overwhelmed, but another part is thinking, “I can’t just let this go.” That tension is real. And it makes sense, especially if you were raised to believe that every negative behavior needs a consequence. But what looks like “bad behavior” in these moments is often something deeper….and responding only to the behavior can miss the actual problem.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
• Why your instinct to give a consequence makes sense, but often backfires
• What’s really happening for your child in those intense moments
• A more effective way to respond that helps your child take responsibility and build the skills they need to handle these moments differently next time
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MENTIONED IN OR RELATED TO THIS EPISODE:
FREE: Does your child have a narrow zone of tolerance?
Episode 250: Why Negative Behavior is Not a Choice (and What Happens When We Assume It Is)
Episode 335: When Your Child Resists Doing Boring or Uncomfortable Things
Episode 345: Responding to Snarky Responses Like “This is STUPID”
Episode 339: Two Simple Words That Help You Become a Powerful Positive Influence