Episode 314

Of course we want our children to listen to us when we ask them to do what they’re supposed to do or when we ask them to act maturely in situations that don’t go their way. 

But often when we try to get our kids to listen to us, we do it in ways that actually decrease our influence. This is especially true when we try to get our children to see why we are right and they are wrong. 

Of course it’s not that we shouldn’t try to motivate better behavior! Rather, we can just do it in more effective ways.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why telling children what they’ve done wrong doesn’t lead to them doing what’s right
• Exactly how to approach your child to increase your influence 
• Why this non-permissive strategy not only increases your influence, but strengthens your relationship

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