We want our kids to feel good, and we want to have a strong relationship.
But often the things we do to help them feel good, and to strengthen our relationship — giving in to them, doing things for them, taking them places and buying them things — tend to lead to more entitled attitudes and more negativity.
If we want kids to be more positive (and genuinely happy), we need to focus on giving them what they need, not what they want. When we do that, we experience long-term results in improving kids’ moods and in creating stronger, more influential relationships.
In this episode, you’ll learn
- Why being “nice” to kids backfires
- The difference between giving kids what they WANT and giving them what they NEED
- Quick examples for how you can start making quick “deposits” immediately
Referenced in this Episode:
Your Parenting Long Game, Episode 1 (Band-Aid Parenting)
Your Parenting Long Game, Episode 2 (Your Parenting Long Game Framework)
Your Parenting Long Game, Episode 7 (When Asking Your Child to Get Off of Their Device Turns into a Battle)
Your Parenting Long Game, Episode 8 (When Your Kids Won’t Clean (Or Do Other “Boring” Tasks)
VISUAL CHEAT SHEET + QUESTIONS FOR YOU
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